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Gordon Monson: Hey Gov. Cox, all good, but get your own month to celebrate ‘Fidelity.’ June is for Pride.

There’s nothing wrong with celebrating humanity, inside and out of sports, The Tribune columnist writes.

(Rick Egan | The Salt Lake Tribune) The Salt Lake Pride Parade on Sunday, June 7, 2026.

(Rick Egan | The Salt Lake Tribune) The Salt Lake Pride Parade on Sunday, June 7, 2026.

I’m no psychologist or sociologist, but what we’ve got here is some fairly rudimentary stuff. And before anyone screams — “What’s this got to do with sports!?” — remember that, while precise numbers are difficult to ascertain, it’s estimated that around 15 percent of athletes, prep, college and pro, and a much greater percentage in some sports, are part of the LGBTQ community. So the easy matters discussed here — simple for most to grasp, complicated for some to find the courage to acknowledge — are inbounds and in play for them, and for everyone else.

It’s been my experience — and likely many of yours, as well — that people often react negatively to whatever they, themselves, are not a part of, to what they don’t fully understand, to what they’re ignorant about and, most prominently, to what they’re afraid of.

The resistance and, in some cases, the backlash against June being designated as Pride Month fits snugly into the mindset of that negativity. And when efforts are made to single out and celebrate LGBTQ individuals, to alleviate that aforementioned negativity and to give space for an extension of understanding, what happens? Those who don’t relate or comprehend, who instead choose to judge and duck away from and do away with Pride Month end up trying to remove space for empathy.

Some non-LGBTQ groups want not just to disregard any such acknowledgment or celebration of that lifestyle, they aim to eliminate it. And in its place, they want something else promoted, something they claim to understand, something like … Fidelity.

Fidelity Month is and has been described as a conservative observance that underscores “traditional values,” stuff meant to promote allegiance to God, family, country, stuff that Gov. Spencer Cox seems to want to observe.

OK, then.

If certain people, like the governor, want to celebrate such things, all good. But why does that celebration have to be thrown down in June, straight over Pride Month? It’s because it’s meant as a late-coming alternative to a celebration that’s been around for decades, recognized officially at the federal level by President Bill Clinton in 1999.

A couple of notes here.

The first is, Pride Month is designed not only to embolden those who are part of the LGBTQ community, to recognize and accept and value them for who they are, it’s also for those outside that community to do likewise. There has been too little of that last component traditionally, what with the biases and even violence that have been evident against LGBTQ individuals in the past and, sadly still, in the present.

The second is, those who want to roll over the first by promoting the celebration of more traditional values, in a general sense, haven’t been subjected to the same prejudice, misunderstanding and violence that the LGBTQ community has. More conservative people might claim that their values, too, are under attack, but I can’t remember the last time I heard anyone losing friends or family members’ acceptance or a job or being beaten up for having a straight spouse, for loving family — as customarily defined — and country.

As mentioned, if that observance needs celebration, why June? Why not another month? Like Mick Jagger and the Stones, in paraphrase, sang it: Get a different cloud, and so, get a different month.

Such a washing out, as some states are doing, is reminiscent of those who once complained about the slogan, “Black lives matter,” (the sentiment not the organization). They shouted instead, “All lives matter.”

All lives, though, hadn’t been enslaved at one time on the basis of skin color or discriminated against and marginalized at others, right up to today, the way some Blacks had and have been.

I remember the pastor who compared that initial complaint to Jesus Christ preaching in the biblical Sermon on the Mount, singling out the poor in spirit and those who mourn and who are merciful, calling them blessed. And then the offended voice booms in with, “No, Jesus, blessed are all people.”

Nobody — not even or especially one in the majority — wants to be left out, right? Particularly if any of them holds biases against those who live a little differently than they do.

Those who embrace for themselves their so-called traditional values can do so, no problem. They can live the way they will. They can celebrate their values as long as the month is long. Have at it. Live and let live. And get a different month.

Pride Month has been well established as it is, when it is. A beautiful and inclusive thing it is. Those folks can live and let live, too.

Establish Fidelity Month in, who knows, August or September or January, whatever, whenever. But don’t use it as a giant eraser or as a counter-movement, as some kind of simultaneous stamp and statement to diminish or divert from what so many in the past and present have sought and seek to make clear: That they are human, they are valuable to society, they deserve equality and respect and, even absent of agreement, they deserve understanding.

Nothing wrong with celebrating humanity, inside and out of sports.

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