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Letter: Intentions, prejudice and seeing when a dress is just a dress

(Steve Griffin | The Salt Lake Tribune) As Students in the Lion Dance Club at Calvin Smith Elementary School in Taylorsville perform in Celebration of the Chinese New Year people scramble to feed the lions money which is supposed to bring good luck and fortune and is considered a donation to the school for setting up the performance.i The dance was in the Capitol Rotunda in Salt Lake City Monday February 12, 2018. Calvin Smith Elementary School is a Chinese Dual Immersion Program school.

Two of my son’s children, and soon-to-be three, attend the Chinese immersion public school in Cottonwood Heights; we love this school. Our first grader speaks more Chinese words and writes more Chinese characters than I ever did. At the school’s recent Chinese New Year program, several white girls wore Chinese outfits. Whew — sure glad no one accused them of “cultural appropriation.”

Frankly, every culture is guilty of cultural appropriation. For instance, the White House was designed by Irish architect James Hoban, his inspiration being the Leinster House, Ireland’s Parliament buildings. The exterior of our own Utah Capitol has many details from the Corinthian style, its roots coming from Greek and Roman architecture.

Although for decades I’ve encountered racial taunting and discrimination in Utah, most recently at a large sporting goods store in Sandy, I don’t mind when people ask where I’m from, or where my parents were born, or if I speak Chinese.

But others may be offended. Chill out, people. We’re well-intentioned. While “well-intentioned” is criticized, at times justified, I want to err on the side of giving people some slack. Questions can help narrow the divide between differences, teach about our backgrounds, including white backgrounds, and start new friendships.

Growing up with prejudice, I wanted to be white to fit in better. So I wonder if I would have been as intrepid and immovable as Daum is, as she so eloquently defends her choice. Hang in there, girl. You are teaching us a lesson where a dress is not just a dress.

Sarah Smith, Salt Lake City