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He gave the boy in the experiment with him, James Good, the larger bear because he was older. "James is 7 so he gets the big one and I’m 6, so I get the small one," he said.
"He’s really big into fairness," said his mother, Jesomie Carter.
Kayden’s mom said the family tries to downplay want-for-Christmas lists. "We get excited about gifts and how to make them special for others."
Grenny said the experiment shows parents the power of words go far beyond Christmas.
"Do we talk about chores or do we talk about sharing responsibilities at home? Do we talk about getting homework done or do we talk about learning?"
Parents often make discipline self-serving, "about violating my authority," when it ought to be about the hurt inflicted by misbehavior, Grenny said.
"Those small language changes profoundly affect how a child feels ... and whether they become moral or obedient."
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