As a gay former Mormon, I find it curious that Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons is so eager to seek reconciliation with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints ("LDS officials to meet with gay Mormon group," Tribune, April 8). Why do the abused continually seek acceptance from their abusers? It reminds me of the battered wife constantly going back to her abusive husband.

The LDS Church will politely listen, remind them of Heavenly Father's love and Affirmation will leave just feeling happy to be heard. That is, until the church again mobilizes its members in support of more anti-gay legislation. Wham! Another black eye.

I would never encourage a battered wife or a sexually abused child to seek reconciliation with their abusers. This is how abusive bonds are kept intact. The LDS Church must repent and in humility seek forgiveness from us. Until they take responsibility for their abusive actions, we should seek nothing from them.

If LDS Church President Thomas S. Monson were to sincerely approach the queer community and genuinely ask to make restitution, then we can talk. On our terms, not his.

Troy Williams

Salt Lake City