And when a fire engine carried Brian P. Wood's body away to the cemetery, his 10-year-old son rode beside the casket. Bagpipes played for Wood as his remains were loaded onto the engine and again at the Farmington cemetery. But it was not a typical firefighter's funeral.

There was no color guard, no honorary ringing of a bell and no final broadcast for him over the radio.

Wood, who worked for the Farmington Fire Department, was killed by police late Monday after 12 hours of failed negotiations with the distraught 37-old-man.

But during funeral services at the Westminster Presbyterian Church, there was no mention of how Wood died. There were only friends and family telling funny and tender stories.

Longtime friend and former roommate Jeff Clark said that when he and Wood lived together years ago, Clark watched in awe one morning when Wood poured a glass of spoiled, lumpy milk. Then, not believing the milk was really rotten, Wood drank. The tale had the congregation, about 280 people, giggling, if disgusted.

"We had a lot of great times," Clark said. "We had a strong bond. We had a good family."

Mary Tingey, Wood's sister-in-law, told how she wanted her wedding reception in a backyard with a stream running through it. But as her wedding approached, the city stopped water to the stream.

Wood, Tingey said, ran a hose to the stream bed and installed pumps to circulate the water and give Tingey her running stream.

Tingey told another story about a distraught family member intentionally giving himself a superficial gunshot wound. When the family member refused medical treatment, the family called Wood. Wood told the man he was taking him to a friend who could treat him, but instead went to the emergency room to get him medical and psychological help.

"Brian is a bigger part of our lives than we'll ever be able to express," Tingey said.

Events leading to Wood's death began about 9:20 a.m. Monday, when Wood had an argument with his wife and fired a gunshot into an outdoor garbage can at his home in Farmington. When police arrived, Wood sat in his truck with two handguns. A SWAT team arrived and took positions around the block.

At about 9:30 p.m., the SWAT team approached, throwing tear gas canisters, concussion grenades and shooting pepper balls. Farmington police have said Wood fired one shot just about the time a Davis County Sheriff's officer fired one shot that struck and killed Wood.

The Utah Attorney General's Office is investigating the shooting.

The Farmington Fire Department provided the engine for the funeral at the request of the Wood family, and about 10 uniformed firefighters attended services at the church.

At the cemetery, two firefighters presented Wood's fire helmet to his 10-year-old son, Jacob, then turned and saluted the casket. Jacob and his mother, Wood's wife Liz Wood, clutched each other and began crying.

ncarlisle@sltrib.com