CAROLYN - The Salt Lake Tribune http://www.sltrib.com/feeds/topics/CAROLYN News from The Salt Lake Tribune en-us webmaster@sltrib.com (Webmaster) Partying daughter has mom concerned http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57787395-223/daughter-concerned-carolyn-check.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57787395-223/daughter-concerned-carolyn-check.html.csp">Partying daughter has mom concerned</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-04-17T01:01:02.491-06:00">Updated Apr 17, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • My 30-year-old daughter, who lives in another state, has informed me she and her husband are ready to start a family and have stopped using birth control. However, they both drink socially, sometimes fairly heavily. My daughter has mentioned that her doctor says light drinking during pregnancy is OK. I expressed my concern, once, and sent her some information about the effects of alcohol on a fetus at various stages, including in early pregnancy, to which she didn’t respond. And I...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57787395@www.sltrib.com Thu, 17 Apr 2014 01:01:02 MDT Some things are just not worth fixing http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57822181-223/sister-carolyn-annoyed-based.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57822181-223/sister-carolyn-annoyed-based.html.csp">Some things are just not worth fixing</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-04-16T01:01:03.739-06:00">Updated Apr 16, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • My sister told me that she thought my co-workers were Taiwanese and Korean based on X and Y behaviors. They were actually from Vietnam and Hong Kong, respectively. She told me my friend who did an Ironman race must have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder because all people who participate in Ironmans do. I told her: “You haven’t seen his bathroom.” She gave my husband a book for Christmas about introverts because she thinks he is one. And she just commented about a friend Matt who has ...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57822181@www.sltrib.com Wed, 16 Apr 2014 01:01:03 MDT Kid fatigue seen from both points of view http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57787383-223/fatigue-kid-accommodate-carolyn.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57787383-223/fatigue-kid-accommodate-carolyn.html.csp">Kid fatigue seen from both points of view</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-04-12T01:01:02.568-06:00">Updated Apr 12, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • My wife and I have a 2-year-old, and a baby on the way soon. So we’re talking about a very uncomfortable and tired mother/mother-to-be. When trying to organize plans for dinner, or anything really, some of our extended family don’t want to compromise or accommodate our restrictions (like being home for bedtime routine). They don’t have kids. Are they just ignorant? Do they have compromise fatigue? Or are they just being jerks? Kid Fatigue Dear Kid Fatigue • Whatever it is, they ...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57787383@www.sltrib.com Sat, 12 Apr 2014 01:01:02 MDT Talk about his debt before you break it off http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57755220-223/debt-break-carolyn-money.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57755220-223/debt-break-carolyn-money.html.csp">Talk about his debt before you break it off</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-04-11T01:01:02.289-06:00">Updated Apr 11, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • I finished my undergrad a year ago, have a good job, and consider myself financially stable. My boyfriend is finishing his master’s and will graduate with $200,000 in student debt. We’ve been together for nine months and have not talked seriously about his massive debt. I know we both eventually want to be married and have kids, travel and live comfortable lives. I don’t see that being a possibility. Homeownership and kids seem impossible under that kind of debt. I’ve considered t...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57755220@www.sltrib.com Fri, 11 Apr 2014 01:01:02 MDT Find yourself before working on marriage http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57755219-223/marriage-etc-carolyn-excuse.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57755219-223/marriage-etc-carolyn-excuse.html.csp">Find yourself before working on marriage</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-04-09T01:01:02.95-06:00">Updated Apr 9, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • have been unhappy in my marriage for a long time. So long, in fact, that it started long before it became a marriage. I always had an excuse for putting off ending the relationship. In the beginning it was, “I’ll wait until after the summer”; “OK, now I’ll wait until after the holidays” ... etc., etc., etc. Never happened. Eight years, two children and a major home renovation later, we are still married. He is aware that I am not happy, but I’m sure he does not believe I would e...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57755219@www.sltrib.com Wed, 09 Apr 2014 01:01:02 MDT Dictating proposal no way to start marriage http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57755218-223/boyfriend-dad-dear-carolyn.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57755218-223/boyfriend-dad-dear-carolyn.html.csp">Dictating proposal no way to start marriage</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-04-05T01:01:03.245-06:00">Updated Apr 5, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage. I expressed that my big dream for an engagement is something big and public. I don’t mean expensive, maybe just like one of those cute, on-camera things at a sporting event. My predicament: My dad told me my boyfriend has asked permission to propose to me. And, that he is going to propose at an upcoming sports event. My dad expressed concern that my boyfriend’s co-workers will make fun of him and cause problems at his job. I think my ...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57755218@www.sltrib.com Sat, 05 Apr 2014 01:01:03 MDT You don’t get to set someone else’s goals http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57729757-223/goals-weight-pounds-someone.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57729757-223/goals-weight-pounds-someone.html.csp">You don’t get to set someone else’s goals</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-04-03T01:01:02.881-06:00">Updated Apr 3, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • As a man with an overweight girlfriend, I feel a bit demonized by this column (http://wapo.st/1jbbY1P) and advice. Me, I’m small and healthy. I saw her pictures online and knew she had some weight on her, but she was appealing enough. She admitted since those pictures were taken, she added 30 pounds from a stressful divorce. Am I also a heartless superficial slob to want her to lose the 30 pounds she recently gained? I agree if one partner is too demanding of a certain image/appea...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57729757@www.sltrib.com Thu, 03 Apr 2014 01:01:02 MDT Invitation snub leaves him second guessing http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57729745-223/fiancee-friends-carolyn-hurt.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57729745-223/fiancee-friends-carolyn-hurt.html.csp">Invitation snub leaves him second guessing</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-04-01T01:01:02.441-06:00">Updated Apr 1, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • My fiancee has a large social network predating our relationship, which I am learning to navigate. Over the course of the past few years, I have attended almost every dinner, party and other outing with my spouse-to-be and have been outgoing with all of her friends. As a result, I have always been greeted warmly by them. My fiancee’s friend is having an engagement celebration weekend at an out-of-town resort. The guest list included the friends and significant others of the bride-...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57729745@www.sltrib.com Tue, 01 Apr 2014 01:01:02 MDT Different degrees of longing explained http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57695120-223/someone-longing-advice-carolyn.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57695120-223/someone-longing-advice-carolyn.html.csp">Different degrees of longing explained</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-28T01:01:02.711-06:00">Updated Mar 28, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • I get you are a strong believer of the be-content-with-yourself theory of singlehood. What I am not getting is when someone is longing for a baby, we “get” this and understand if they skip other people’s baby showers, etc. We can understand their pain. When someone is single and longing for a partner, we assume something is wrong with them for craving something outside themselves. Your advice has really followed these lines and I don’t see the longing as all that different. Please...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57695120@www.sltrib.com Fri, 28 Mar 2014 01:01:02 MDT Wife’s isolation has husband concerned http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57695117-223/friends-carolyn-close-agree.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57695117-223/friends-carolyn-close-agree.html.csp">Wife’s isolation has husband concerned</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-26T01:01:03.05-06:00">Updated Mar 26, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • I like to have a good set of casual friends from work, church etc. and a couple of close friends, but my wife only wants one or two very close friends. Since we move around a lot, I tend to have more casual friends and struggle sometimes to find close friends, but she has no friends other than me. I don’t think this is healthy for her, but I’m not quite sure what to do about it. It also makes me feel guilty for going out with my friends and leaving her behind; she has made it clea...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57695117@www.sltrib.com Wed, 26 Mar 2014 01:01:03 MDT Act of betrayal has ripped family apart http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57695116-223/parents-brother-betrayal-carolyn.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57695116-223/parents-brother-betrayal-carolyn.html.csp">Act of betrayal has ripped family apart</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-24T13:10:42.92-06:00">Updated Mar 24, 2014 01:10PM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn • Ten years ago, my brother had an affair with my now ex-wife, which resulted in twins. I have not seen or spoken to them since, nor have I met their offspring. This caused an estrangement with me and my parents, who insisted on having a relationship with my brother and his kids. Recently they contacted me because they “are getting older and are trying to bring the family back together.” I’d rather have my teeth pulled out with pliers. I wil...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57695116@www.sltrib.com Mon, 24 Mar 2014 13:10:42 MDT Is dating a friend’s ex considered fair game? http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57662539-223/friend-carolyn-dear-someone.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57662539-223/friend-carolyn-dear-someone.html.csp">Is dating a friend’s ex considered fair game?</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-21T01:01:02.376-06:00">Updated Mar 21, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • A friend forwarded to me the online-dating profile of a former boyfriend of mine, and asked if that was him. She said they had spoken on the phone and were to meet in person. Apparently she was trying to feel out what I thought about it. I would never do that to a friend, and I feel that if she is my friend, then she would not contact him. What do you think? Curious Dear Curious • Yours is a common view, so over the years I’ve tried to see things that way, to have your perspecti...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57662539@www.sltrib.com Fri, 21 Mar 2014 01:01:02 MDT Go visit grandma before time runs out http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57662538-223/son-visit-graduation-grandma.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57662538-223/son-visit-graduation-grandma.html.csp">Go visit grandma before time runs out</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-18T01:01:01.874-06:00">Updated Mar 18, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • I love my mother-in-law dearly. She’s in her mid-90s and has congestive heart failure, is blind and has fallen and broken bones several times in recent years. She’s now on oxygen and gets sick way too often. She lives 1,200 miles from us and we haven’t seen her in two years. I really want to go visit, but my husband keeps saying he can’t get off work and the trip is too expensive. Well, he gets off work for four or five days to do other things with no problem, and we have plenty o...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57662538@www.sltrib.com Tue, 18 Mar 2014 01:01:01 MDT Letter: Why do we need to know about judge’s pregnancy? http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/opinion/57682363-82/judge-court-mchugh-pregnancy.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/opinion/57682363-82/judge-court-mchugh-pregnancy.html.csp">Letter: Why do we need to know about judge’s pregnancy?</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-16T16:21:02.603-06:00">Updated Mar 16, 2014 04:21PM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Congratulations to Judge Carolyn McHugh on her confirmation to the 10th Circuit Court bench (“Senate confirms first Utah woman to 10th Circuit Court bench,” Tribune, March 12). I do wonder why the writer of the article thought it necessary to bring up her pregnancy status from the early 1980s. When was the last time a male nominee’s due date was of such grave importance? No dang wonder people outside our borders think we’re an odd bunch. Maria Nye Sutherland</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57682363@www.sltrib.com Sun, 16 Mar 2014 16:21:02 MDT New mom struggles to adjust to life with child http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57662535-223/feelings-baby-carolyn-enjoying.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57662535-223/feelings-baby-carolyn-enjoying.html.csp">New mom struggles to adjust to life with child</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-15T01:01:03.904-06:00">Updated Mar 15, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • My husband and I always wanted children, and six months ago we were blessed with a wonderful, healthy baby girl. I love her to pieces, but whenever someone asks how I am “enjoying” motherhood, I guess the answer is ... not all that much. Yes, there are moments of joy, but most of the time is just a grind, mixed in with intense bouts of worry. I do stay home with her full time and work from home part time, but my husband is extremely hands-on, and we have family nearby who will hap...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57662535@www.sltrib.com Sat, 15 Mar 2014 01:01:03 MDT Fairy-tale romance in search of happy ending http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57627241-223/imagine-boyfriend-carolyn-parents.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57627241-223/imagine-boyfriend-carolyn-parents.html.csp">Fairy-tale romance in search of happy ending</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-13T01:01:02.038-06:00">Updated Mar 13, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Dear Carolyn • My boyfriend’s parents are against our relationship. My boyfriend (31) and I (26) have been on and off for three years, but have remained best friends since we met. He is from England, and they have a real problem with the idea of him settling in the Midwest. Also, he hasn’t had the best history with women; they usually walk all over him. I don’t think they will ever be OK with any woman he chooses. A while back, I wrote a letter to his mother, mostly to break the ice, but she did...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57627241@www.sltrib.com Thu, 13 Mar 2014 01:01:02 MDT Senate confirms first Utah woman to 10th Circuit Court bench http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/politics/57670411-90/mchugh-utah-court-senate.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/politics/57670411-90/mchugh-utah-court-senate.html.csp">Senate confirms first Utah woman to 10th Circuit Court bench</a></h4> <span class="author vcard"><span class="fn">By Thomas Burr</span></span> <span class="source-org vcard"><span class="org fn"> The Salt Lake Tribune</span></span> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-12T19:24:25.022-06:00">Updated Mar 12, 2014 07:24PM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Washington • The U.S. Senate on Wednesday unanimously confirmed Utah Court of Appeals Presiding Judge Carolyn McHugh to the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals, making her the first woman from Utah to serve on the federal appellate panel. McHugh won wide support from the Senate — 98 senators voted for her and none against — after her nomination from President Barack Obama had languished for nearly 10 months. When the Senate failed to act last year, Obama had to resubmit her name and start the process...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57670411@www.sltrib.com Wed, 12 Mar 2014 19:24:25 MDT Daughter’s wedding request upsets mom http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57627230-223/daughter-aisle-carolyn-handle.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57627230-223/daughter-aisle-carolyn-handle.html.csp">Daughter’s wedding request upsets mom</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-08T01:01:02.814-06:00">Updated Mar 8, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn • After 15 years in a psychologically and physically abusive marriage, I managed to get out and took my three children with me. Two of my children carry on a relationship with their father, and I have stayed completely out of that since they became adults. I’ve done pretty well with dealing with him at family occasions, and have even had him in my home for a couple of celebrations, though it has been difficult for me. One daughter is getting...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57627230@www.sltrib.com Sat, 08 Mar 2014 01:01:02 MDT Beauty can be both a blessing and a curse http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57593121-223/awful-beautiful-blow-bombshell.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57593121-223/awful-beautiful-blow-bombshell.html.csp">Beauty can be both a blessing and a curse</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-06T01:01:02.909-06:00">Updated Mar 6, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">While I’m away, readers give the advice. On the agony of the bombshell • My mother was movie-star gorgeous and let me know she was disappointed that I didn’t measure up. Eventually, I realized she was indeed both blessed and cursed. When she turned about 50, she decided she was losing her looks (she wasn’t). Although she was smart, funny, capable and talented, she saw herself only as beautiful and pined away. Her life was lived in one dimension. Bombshell’s Daughter A long-ago subordinate (...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57593121@www.sltrib.com Thu, 06 Mar 2014 01:01:02 MDT Simple message has provided comfort http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57593118-223/parents-christmas-grandmother-togetherness.html.csp <div class="hnews hentry item"> <h4><a class="url entry-title" href="http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/entertainment2/57593118-223/parents-christmas-grandmother-togetherness.html.csp">Simple message has provided comfort</a></h4> <h5><span class="updated" title="2014-03-04T01:01:03.104-06:00">Updated Mar 4, 2014 01:01AM MDT</span></h5> <div class ="entry-content">While I’m away, readers give the advice. On explaining death to children • When my mother was very young, she was extremely concerned about dying and repeatedly asked her mother (my grandmother) about it. Eventually, Grandmother turned to her and said, “Look, do you remember what it was like before you were born?” My mother said, “No.” “Well,” said my grandmother, “That’s what it will be like when you die.” I was in my late 50s when Mother told me this. It continues to be comforting. E. On “...</div> <h5><a rel="item-license" href="http://www.sltrib.com/pages/privacy"> Copyright 2013 The Salt Lake Tribune. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.</a></h5> </div> 57593118@www.sltrib.com Tue, 04 Mar 2014 01:01:03 MDT